Year 1: Paper. World Map on silk paper. $38.
Year 2: Cotton. Tellason – John Graham Mellor Selvidge Indigo. $198.
Year 3: Leather. Tanner Goods Heritage Belt in Natural. $96.
Year 4: Linen/Silk. Irish Linen Handkerchief. $60.
Year 5: Wood. Rowley Rocker. $600-$700 depending on style.
Year 6: Iron. Cast Iron Fire Bowl. $375
Year 7: Wool or Copper. Golden Bear + Unionmade Wool Peacoat. $370.
Year 8: Bronze. Antique Bronze Bottle Opener. $28. And beer of the month club. $36 per month.
Year 1: Paper. Oh Happy Day Custom Letterpress Business Cards. $250 for 250 custom cards.
Year 2: Cotton. Madewell Anchors Away Dress. $95.
Year 3: Leather. Claire Vivier La Tropezienne Tote. $320.
Year 4: Linen/Silk. Stella McCartney Silk Playsuit. $195
Year 5: Wood. Rachel Comey Tucco Sandal. $403.
Year 6: Iron. Le Creuset – Cast Iron Skillet. $160
Year 7: Wool or Copper. MacAusland’s Woold Blanket. Starting at $75.
Year 8: Bronze. Lady Grey Angular Bronze Bangle. $192
Last week marked 4 years of being married. Four short years ago, when Jevan and I got married, I balked at the idea of giving a traditional wedding gift. I felt like the Traditional Anniversary list was made for people who went into marriage barely knowing one another. To me, this list was SO 1950′s, for lack of a better explanation. I like to think of myself as an excellent gift giver needing zero help in this department, much less guidelines.
Truth be told, I sneered even more at the Modern Anniversary gift list. What’s so modern about giving clocks (been around for years) and electric appliances (new since the advent of electricity but modern, um, maybe in 1953)? I’m pretty sure I told Jevan if he ever gave me an appliance for our anniversary, said appliance would be grounds for divorce. If he couldn’t come up with something, anything, more interesting to give me and had to resort to a sensible appliance at year four, I was determined our marriage would be doomed or worse, boring and sensible. Where’s the romance in opening up a washing machine, or a toaster oven.
Four years later I won’t say I have completely changed my thinking, because I will take experience over an object, any day. But, there is something appealing about the Traditional Anniversary List. What has changed you ask? Well, the traditional list makes me think of things that are meant to last, not unlike a marriage. It’s romantic giving him a pair of handmade leather shoes for year three or her a water color painting on paper by a favorite artist for the first year and enjoying these things for years to come. The best part? Remembering that specific year and time you spent together, just the two of you, each time he wears the shoes or she looks at the painting on the wall. I’m a fan of that business.
So, yeah, I’m eating my own words and am more traditional than I even thought. But I’m holding ground on the appliances. Don’t ever gift me an appliance. Divorce, I tell you.